Monthly Archives: September 2007

Why I share my pictures – WARNING – RANT AHEAD

I share because I’m happy with my life and am experiencing such joy that I want others to experience that joy with me. What I don’t understand is people’s compulsion to critique things that are not meant to be a professional venture. Yesterday I decided to email my family with photos I had taken over […]

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Stephanie - September 11, 2007 - 2:48 am

It’s really difficult when our parents are not as excited about our daily stories as we are!
Um… are your family professional photographers? What’s up with the “this and this and this” are wrong?
Hmmph.
The grandparents that had the same comment – is this your dad’s parents? If so, then there you have it. He would have gotten it from them… as he was treated that way his whole life, and never learned a different way.
Which is why we’re trying so damned hard today.

whimsigal - September 11, 2007 - 2:59 am

LOL No, my parents are not professional photographers. My dad does have proclivity for thinking he’s an expert on everything though. He gets that straight from his mother.

Stephanie, I have to tell you, I struggle to have a relationship with my family. My mom and I are close but my father, well that’s a whole other issue. He’s a bully and almost impossible to be around. My mother always defends him, unless he’s done something to make her mad. It’s a stressful situation – to feel love but not like for someone. I’ve always suspected that he feels that way about me, too. How does one resolve something like that? I feel guilt whenever I even think about pulling away. I could tell you so many stories…I just feel so conflicted.

You’re right – it’s the treatment I received that pushes me to do better by my kids. It still won’t be perfect but it will be better than what I got.

ThatGirlTasha - September 11, 2007 - 11:41 pm

I understand that negativity thing-maybe it’s generational. My mom and aunt live together and are struggling financially since my dad’s death.

Everything is bad, depressing, “why us”. If anything good happens to someone, they talk about how it isn’t fair. When I call, I just say uh huh. And I have to be careful not say anything good that’s happened or they’ll be on the phone with another family member saying how it isn’t fair that such and such happened to me.

I would definitely recommend keeping a pretty good distance for a while, otherwise, you might find yourself subconsciously trying to make your dad and grandparents “happy” with you, when intellectually, you know they can’t help themselves; they just have to taunt and pick on nonsense.

It’s jut a fault they have with themselves but this does not stop it from effecting you emotionally.

HHmmm-or maybe I’m just projecting-I have a couple of family members like this too ; )

-Tasha

whimsigal - September 11, 2007 - 11:53 pm

Tasha! Dang girl, it’s so nice to see you here!

I probably will hang back for a while because as you said, the temptation to please the unpleasable is so great. Is unpleasable a word? Poetic License.

I’m glad to know I’m not the only person out there with family members who regularly overdraw the emotional bank account. Well, not too glad because I’m not happy to hear that you have to endure the torment as well but I don’t feel so alone about it.

The situation makes me think about the movie, Moonstruck with Cher and Nick Cage, you know the part where Olympia Dukakis smacks Cher and says, “Snap out of it!” God, I SO want to do that…..

Thanks for commenting!!

Tiffani - September 12, 2007 - 10:16 pm

For what it’s worth, I love the pic of the sheep, and the dog taking a bath. :)

Sometimes, I have to picture some family members not as their chronological age, but as their emotional intelligence age. Which in many cases is at about 3 years old. And then I treat them like I do my daughter. I don’t get mad at her, I understand she’ll throw tantrums, and set very firm boundaries. Same principle with some adults in my life.

Keep on taking (and sharing!) your pics, I love them.

whimsigal - September 12, 2007 - 10:31 pm

Thanks, Tiffani!

That dog was so funny! It just hopped right in there and was drinking the water while chillin’ at the same time. Totally cracked me up.

Thanks for the encouragement!

Evie

whimsigal - September 13, 2007 - 2:55 pm

Tiffani,

I published your comment then realized that you might not have wanted me to so I deleted it just in case!

Thanks for the info you provided!!

Evie

Farm Fest and the Children’s Museum All in One Day!

Wow! We had an action-packed Saturday and it was SO much fun! First thing we did was get up and head out to Farm Fest Five. It cost $20 for us all to get in and it was worth every penny. The boys got to see sheep, llamas, alpacas, chickens, sheep-herding dogs, and they had […]

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Stephanie - September 10, 2007 - 5:00 pm

Fabulous day!
The pictures are great! I especially like the one with hubby and then the last three of the boys!
Whenever we go to our children’s museum I always think “sheesh, why don’t we come every day?!?” especially since we have a (about to be expired) membership.
Such a great place.
Really? no one there on a saturday? Wow!

whimsigal - September 10, 2007 - 5:12 pm

Well, I’d be willing to be no one was there because school’s back in and soccer just started up and people are “too busy”.

I usually avoid it like the plague myself because crowds of people can make me break out in hives!

It’s nice that in most major cities there is a children’s museum. One of the greatest creations for kids!

Stephanie - September 11, 2007 - 2:43 am

Absolutely (one of the greatest creations for kids).
It’s so spectacularly great to have a place where you don’t have to figure out a way to urge the children not to touch things or shout or behave in certain ways.
It’s always a relief, actually.
I was thinking that, too, folks are busy just getting back in school, and are not in to the swing of things, yet.
Agreed – always better to go when it’s empty – we usually go after two, after the school trips leave!