Monthly Archives: October 2008

Who am I? Why am I here?

Holy moly.  I had to dust the cobwebs off the old keyboard.  Poor thing hasn’t seen a whole lot of action here lately.  If I’m lucky, some of you out there have been wondering whether or not I’m dead.  If I’m unlucky, you were hoping that was the case.  Sorry to disappoint.  We have been […]

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mamak - October 27, 2008 - 11:03 pm

It’s you!
Kids are so funny! Your kids are mighty cute. I loved their insights and wit.
Come around again soon.
I.Miss.You-K

allyall - October 27, 2008 - 11:16 pm

Love the kid commentary! Glad to see a post!

Joan - October 28, 2008 - 7:24 am

Glad to see you are back. Don’t feel bad about the camera. You’re officially a photographer and your choice of camera is very personal.
I did something worse a few years ago. I casually mentioned to husband about changing my ring settings. While he was away on business I got my engagement ring and anniversary ring re-set. He had just given me that anniversary ring a few years prior and had it custom made. Fortunately he was okay with my decision.

Same Song Different Day

For months, my mother has been totally dry. Something that has made all of our lives so much richer. She was able to leave the house, able to travel to Disney World, able to be a connected and social grandmother to my and my sister’s kids. Now that status has changed. My sister just called […]

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Audrey - October 9, 2008 - 5:51 pm

Hi. I so understand. I grew up in an alcoholic home as well with my father being the drinker in the family. He is a wonderful thoughtful man when he’s sober. I just don’t like being around him when he’s drinking – I tend to revert back to that little girl I was, standing outside the bar in the small town where we lived waiting for my Daddy to come out and take me home. (Yeah, times have changed)

For the last year it has been a constant worry for me. No one there to look after him anymore since Mom passed away. Yet, there is that voice inside that says “he’s an adult”…but that little girl doesn’t want to be an orphan either – and given that he also had heart troubles recently…

And so, as children of alcoholics, it is all we can do to raise our children and hope they see that our moms and dads are seen for their goodness rather than this thing that seems to have such a strong hold on them.

Hugs

whimsigal - October 9, 2008 - 6:41 pm

Hugs right back at ya, Audrey! You summarized exactly how I feel when you said that you revert back to being a little girl. That is SO what happens to me it’s not funny.

I appreciate the perspective you offer and join you in your hope that our kids see the good people in our parents. I wish I had that filter, too!

evie

Chris - October 9, 2008 - 8:35 pm

Alanon. I’ve been to a few meetings and I think they can be very, very helpful. (((Evie)))

Stephanie - October 9, 2008 - 10:41 pm

Big Squeezes to you.
I’m sorry you’re feeling let down and cheated.
It’s so hard to get over childhood hurts!
xxoo

Jill - October 10, 2008 - 12:52 am

My brother was an alcoholic and growing up I never felt like I really knew him. My Father-in-law and Mother-in-law, up until he broke his hip last year, would have to drink a case of beer every night just so they would sleep. My MIL no longer has the shakes like she had been doing since I have known them. We never spent the night over there because Jamey didn’t want our boys to see them getting drunk. It was hard for him and his brothers to grow up with them being alcoholics. I don’t know what to say but give you big hugs and I’ll be here if you need to talk.

Carri - October 10, 2008 - 4:54 pm

I’m so sorry that your having to go through this again. It’s so, so sad to see our parents falling into their own traps. It just makes me so much more determined to be different. Even though it leaves me feeling so completely helpless at the same time. Big hugs Evie!

allyall - October 10, 2008 - 8:04 pm

Hugs.

k - October 13, 2008 - 8:22 am

I am so sorry Evıe. I can’t offer many words or advıce. I just want you to know that I am thınkıng of you and your boys. What a huge thıng..-K

Marin - October 16, 2008 - 12:05 pm

It is very sad. I am sorry for you and sorry for your boys. It sucks when you see someone close to you spinning out of control and there is nothing you can do to stop them.

Hugs.

EC - October 21, 2008 - 10:45 am

Hey guys! Thanks for all the kind comments. She actually got back on the wagon so I’m glad I didn’t go all apeshit about it. I just have to recognize it’s a process for her and not something easy to control. I just love her immensely and can’t bear to see her do that to herself. It’s a relief that she stopped herself so quickly. I just wish she would get professional help instead of trying to do it on her own.

Thanks again! You guys are the best!

Marin, I sent you an email, did you get it?

How I Spent My Birthday

This year was very different for me. Usually on my birthday I’m very self-centered and concentrate on what I’m getting or what is being done for ME. However, this year, my husband came to me with a request for us to do something else that had absolutely nothing to do with my birthday at all […]

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mamak - October 6, 2008 - 2:33 pm

Wow! That is so cool that you hauled out there on your birthday. I remembered being so moved by people of service after 9-11. Hope you had a great birthday, and thanks for sharing this. And I so wanted to see you on that bike!-K

Carri - October 6, 2008 - 8:20 pm

Oooo, Happy Birthday!! What a great way to spend the day!

whimsigal - October 6, 2008 - 10:04 pm

K- I was terrified that I’d pop the tires on it or else I totally would have done it. LOL 9/11 really did bring to our attention just how dangerous that job can be and how brave the men and women are who choose that career, didn’t it? I just feel so awed by them!

Carri! Thanks! It was a great day indeed! Beautiful and inspiring!

Jill - October 8, 2008 - 12:45 pm

That really looks like a great weekend and so moving!

Chrissy - October 23, 2008 - 8:13 am

Happy Belated Birthday!

I am not sure if I could go there. It hits just a little too close to home. My hubby is a firefighter. Nine of the men that were honored this year died in a fire in Charleston, SC. That is about an hr from me. I remember that day and the nightmares that followed for a week.

Two years ago we had the traveling 9/11 memorial exhibit here. I was in tears while walking through it. They also had the NYPD Bagpipe Band come through playing. It was one of the most moving experiences of my life.

EC - October 23, 2008 - 8:23 am

Oh, Chrissy! There were a LOT of people talking about the Charleston 9 at the memorial. What an incredible tragedy. You and your husband have my utmost respect because being a firefighter and a wife of a firefighter is a huge sacrifice to make for your community. We really appreciate his service!