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I had a funny title but I forgot it.

The past few days around here have been, well, pretty much the same as the several days preceding it! Me on the sofa, kids in the playroom. Day in, day out. Wait! What is that? The kids are coming into the family room to hang out with me! And they brought an activity with them: […]

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sunny - March 6, 2008 - 2:28 pm

Please share your story!

Everyone has a love story, and I love reading them all! I pester my friends all the time for their stories.

[waiting, chin in hand, to hear the sweet story…..]

dharmamama - March 6, 2008 - 6:43 pm

When I switched our unschooling focus from “unschooling” to “living joyful lives TODAY”, everything fell into place. Following any type of curriculum or coerced work doesn’t fit in there at all. I was able to completely drop the thoughts about learning. It was SO freeing. I completely trust that they are learning all they need, and it doesn’t even cross my mind any more. It took practice. :)

Maybe think about how to finagle the paperwork requirements to fit your life, not how to finagle your lives to fit the paperwork. This is *your* life and *your* family.

peace ~

whimsigal - March 6, 2008 - 7:00 pm

Sunny, thanks for responding to that question! Maybe this weekend, I’ll put something up!

Dharmamamma: I “know” that on some level. In fact, when we first began this path, I was so passionate about that. I’m feeling a little, Gosh, I don’t know, tired about it. Worrying that I’m not preparing them well enough to compete in the future. I’m sure I’ll work through it, it’s just a difficult time right now. Thanks for your comment!


Mama Podkayne - March 6, 2008 - 10:09 pm

What state? We live in Iowa (and may move to Ohio in 2009) and even though we have pretty detailed ways that we have to report (when the time comes) unschooling is rampant and successful. Many moms I know blog it and then use to print a book off and turn that in for a portfolio.

Also, I have 4 homeschoolers in my online college composition class. The unschooler is by far my best student. He designs video games as a hobby.

I can send you the link to his mom’s page, as she is the radical unschooling guru in Central Iowa. In my blogroll, Zamozo.

whimsigal - March 6, 2008 - 10:25 pm



The problem is definitely rooted in my own insecurities. I know that there are successful unschoolers out there since that’s what got me started down the path. I’m just in a funk from laying around so much I think. Maybe this weekend I’ll get out Rue Kream’s book or go back through Sandra Dodd’s website. It just feels like I need an injection to get me pumped back up about it.

Does that make sense?

Madeline - March 6, 2008 - 11:20 pm

First, please post your story despite Pioneer Woman. What timing it is to read this. I just read her for the first time a few days ago and was feeling… I guess it was a combination of awe and envy,for the first time in the blogging world. I am a farmer’s wife who doesn’t really farm but cooks, like her, and loves my camera. But we do not have a sprawling ranch, with a lodge for guests and the best camera equipment and I spend way to much time with my kids to be able to spend time writing so well….or just can’t. You know? And then I got over it. She is inspiring me to better blog posts and new cooking ideas. Please post your story.

Anyway, on the unschooling front, I just got the “Unschooling Unmanual” in the mail and have only read a few of the pieces but it is perfect for small bursts of attention. Will you still be in NC in Sept. when the unschooling conference happens there? I highly recommend that.

whimsigal - March 6, 2008 - 11:34 pm


Thank you so much for your comment! I also suffered from Pioneer Woman envy for a while then I realized that she, like you said, inspired me to do some things that I wouldn’t have done before. I think I will post part of the story tomorrow, bear in mind that it’s not as funny or irreverent as the Pioneer Woman’s story. :)

THe “Unschooling Unmanual” sounds interesting! I’m going to have to run off and order that to add to my collection. I’m not sure where we’ll be in Sept. I did hear that this is the last year for the conference though!

Thanks again for taking the time to comment on this worrywart of a post!


carri - March 7, 2008 - 11:45 am

Okay, let’s see…YES! Post your story. The photos are wonderful. He’s such a cutie! And your unschooling worries…

Have you joined an email list in the state you might move to? I’m sure there’s an uschooling one. There are for most states. Reading about how others in that state are doing things might help ease some of those worries.

Maybe you these feelings are stemming from your not being able to get out and being kind of trapped on the couch. When I went through my depression, my parenting and schooling choices became an obsession. Worrying over every little thing with the kids. I am imagining that being stuck on the couch can make the world seem a little topsy turvy like that.

Do you have a porch you could maybe sit on for a few minutes here and there. There is just something about the smells and sights from outside that can make all those worries seem silly, ya know?

I really hope you are feeling much better soon. Looking forward to reading your romantical story!

piscesgrrl - March 15, 2008 - 4:53 pm

Hallo, I’m catching up on reading – it’s been a while since I’ve gotten a chance…

First off, PW has staff. No one can blog as often as she does, and food blog, and photoshop blog, and make calendars, and edit every photo to the nth degree, and and and and… without staff. So until you decide to go out and get a nanny, stop comparing yourself to someone like her. PW is very talented, but I like reading the regular folks like us who have good days and bad days and sometimes don’t have time to blog and sometimes don’t have anything captivating to say when we do. Y’know? Ok, there’s that.

As for unschooling – you’ve just got too much thinking time right now (I agree with what Carri said above). Right now, I’m having trouble shutting off the naysayers in my head too, even though I *know* and *believe* wholly in the rightness and beauty of unschooling. If it helps, I turned Brady’s radical unschooling into a transcript for his school admission – I am more than happy to send you a copy. Just email me – piscesgrrl(at)aeroinc(dot)net. And, I will help you do that when the time comes, if you want. Just say the word! I’d find it fun and be able to help without the subjective wiggyness that you’ll feel during the process. A friend helped me with mine and that was great in keeping me from flaking out over it.

And as for the love story, I know I’m too late to chime in on that cuz you’re already sharing it. So I’ll just say woohoo! Can’t wait. Our women’s group retreats 3-4 times per year and we often have 2-3 activities scheduled (the rest of the weekend is taken up by long walks, lots of chocolate, non-stop chatting, and gut-busting laughter!). For our retreat in May, one of the activities is for each grrrl to share her love story. We’ll sprinkle them throughout the weekend. Can’t you just feel the swooning now? But with this group, there will definitely be some eyebrow raising yumminess too. ;-)

I’m going to try my darndest to be at the L&L in Sept – if I go, I expect to see you there! (In other words, um, please?)

Yep. It’s Monday all right.

So as many of you may remember, I sent my computer off to Apple because the case had cracked. It cracked within a month of owning it and when we drove an hour to the nearest Apple store in August, the gentleman in the store acknowledged that it’s a quality issue that has come up […]

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Rinnyboo - January 14, 2008 - 6:32 pm

Sorry you guys had a bad experience with your dad. It sounds like the rest of the weekend was cool. I love the pic of Iain helping Ryan with his shoes.

We are looking forward to seeing you tomorrow!


whimsigal - January 14, 2008 - 6:34 pm

Thanks Marin. I’ll fill you in tomorrow.

We’re excited, too!!! The boys have been talking about it all day!

My name is Stacie. - January 14, 2008 - 6:58 pm

Great pictures! What kind of puppy do you have.

I am sorry about what happened with your dad. I’ve had many moments like that with mine!

Glad you were able to salvage the day, and the weekend!

whimsigal - January 14, 2008 - 7:12 pm

Hey Stacie! We have a German Shorthaired Pointer. She is high energy but incredibly sweet and loving.

Thanks for your comment! Please come back and visit!


carri - January 14, 2008 - 9:45 pm

Oh Evie, I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Great job not letting it ruin your whole weekend.

Great photos! I happen to really love the artsy one. The angle, the orange doors, the green trees, and the dark asphalt really appeals to me.

Stephanie S. - January 14, 2008 - 9:46 pm

I’m sorry bout your dad.

On a lighter note – Trev said to me today “Grammy (my mother) says our house is tacky, is it?”
“What?!? No, I don’t think so. What?”
“Well, when I broke that thing, she said “you broke this, and you broke that table, and I don’t want my house to be tacky like your mom’s!!”
I was pretty pissed, I don’t mind telling you. :) And for the record, my house is NOT tacky. Thank you very much.
“The next time Grammy says something like that – you tell her “My mom believes that children should feel loved and cherished!!!”
Jackass. :)
(I’m over it, by the way. I’ve said really stupid things too, when I’ve been really frustrated.)

whimsigal - January 14, 2008 - 10:10 pm

Steph and Carri,

Thanks for your sympathy re: dad.


I’m glad you liked that photo of the storage unit. I dig it, too. I was going for something different when I did it but it turned out ok anyway!

Man, parents can be brutal! I’m sorry your mom said that to Trev although I know you’re over it. That’s what gets me. Say what you will to me, I’m an adult and can defend myself but don’t say things to my kids or else I will get medieval on your ass. My mom says stuff like that to my kids, too, but usually about my sister’s house. They tell my sister who does a good job of not reacting to it.

It’s a good thing that we all have each other through this blogworld of ours, and that we can support each other when we need it.

Thanks to both of you again!


MamaK - January 15, 2008 - 2:19 am

Sorry about your parent incident. That sucks, especially that it happened in front of the kids.
I’m glad that you salvaged the day. I love creeks. They are perfect, open ended, just perfect. Even when wearing 54.00 shoes!
I loved your photos, always do. I thought the art one was a ladder at first, neat.
Sorry about your comp, why the hell didn’t they fix it, morons…