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My new favorite photo

I took some photos of my niece for my sister this weekend so they could send them out with Christmas cards and while there are many that show her scrumptious little self, this one is my favorite: This is the shot as I took it. I don’t know why it’s my favorite but there’s just […]

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kelli - December 12, 2007 - 4:06 am

Love that photo, so cute. Isn’t Pioneer Woman so inspiring?

All your pics are so colorful, wonderful!

whimsigal - December 12, 2007 - 4:28 am

Hey Kelli! Thanks so much! Yes, Pioneer Woman is inspiring and I have s much affection for her. She really puts herself out there and it’s so wonderful to read her blog every day.

Thanks so much for coming by mine!

Evie

Cate - December 12, 2007 - 5:21 am

These are so cool Evie!

Photoshop is something I really want to learn. I’ve been inspired by some blogs too & want to learn how to take better pics.

Will be watching your experiments with interest!

Cheers,
Cate

Alison - December 12, 2007 - 6:45 am

Great Pic..I like the vintagy one in color the best..

carri - December 12, 2007 - 12:34 pm

Wow Evie! I lurve them all!

Life With Us - December 12, 2007 - 12:34 pm

I love the warm up and intensify. I love photography. Mt daughter and I have been very inot taking pics lately. I will have to check out her site.
danette
I have enjoyed looking at your photos.

whimsigal - December 12, 2007 - 12:43 pm

Cate, I’m still learning Photoshop, too. It’s so freaking expensive! My copy is from the year 2000, I think. Add to that I’m on a Mac and I still don’t get it yet and you have a big puddle of confusion sitting here a lot of the time. For most of my photos I use Photoshop Elements which has many of Photoshop’s features, minus the most advanced ones. The actions I used on these pictures are just things I select and click play and the rest is automated. The actions are predesigned to make all these changes themselves. In otherwords, I still don’t get Photoshop but I can at least use the actions.

Alison and Danette, I like those two also. The warm up makes the photo really pop and vintagey just looks neato.

Carri! Have you watched Saturday Night Live when they do the skit of the chick who runs the register at Target? Your comment reminds me of her! LOL

carri - December 12, 2007 - 1:20 pm

I haven’t watched SNL in like forever. Now I have to make a point of it.

Rinnyboo - December 12, 2007 - 4:18 pm

I like Warm up and Intensify and the Vintagey Over Expose in color and the dark B&W.

You know I love photography and I still don’t feel comfortable with my (SLR) camera or Photoshop. I guess I really need to do more research to track down the manual!

whimsigal - December 12, 2007 - 4:34 pm

Carri, I emailed you a link to a video…

Marin, I can’t remember which version of photoshop you have but Scott Kelby makes some great hot-to books for Photoshop. They are very easy to understand, don’t have a lot of technical mumbo-jumbo. I haven’t had as much time as I would like to go through it but maybe in February I’ll become an expert. LOL If it weren’t for these automated actions, I wouldn’t be able to play with photoshop well.

Stephanie - December 12, 2007 - 4:41 pm

Was this picture taken in May???

heehee!
xxoo

whimsigal - December 12, 2007 - 5:43 pm

Ha ha Miss Snowy Pants. I can’t help it that the high here yesterday was friggin 80 degrees!!! Just rub it in that you have snow and we still have leaves on the trees and green grass.

My sister actually had to turn on her A/C…in December!!!

LOL

Elaine - December 12, 2007 - 9:26 pm

Evie, thanks for the tip you left on my blog about PW. Looks like you’ve got a great blog going here as well.

my blog: http://akhmmm.wordpress.com

whimsigal - December 12, 2007 - 9:33 pm

Elaine, it was my pleasure! Thanks for coming by!

VanderbiltWife - December 13, 2007 - 9:23 pm

I am totally addicted to PW thanks to your blog, Evie! And PWC (is that an approp. abrev.?? LOL). I made peach cobbler from it the other night and sometime this weekend we’ll be having Malboro Man’s favorite sandwich. Now if I could only get my DH to eat your brussel sprouts!

whimsigal - December 13, 2007 - 11:00 pm

V-dub (vanderbiltwife) Ha! It’s easy to get addicted to either one of her sites! Isn’t the Peach thing to DIE for???? Have mercy. When your husband eats that sandwich, he’ll give you anything you want. LOL

On the brussel sprouts, so many people don’t like them! Just fix them and eat them yourself. That’s what I do with the foods my DH doesn’t like!

Alison - December 14, 2007 - 5:37 am

You’ve been tagged!!

MarlaQuack - December 15, 2007 - 12:05 am

nice job on the photos.

kalurah - December 19, 2007 - 10:35 am

This is AWESOME, Evie!
I LOVE it! :)

whimsigal - December 19, 2007 - 12:27 pm

Kalurah,

I’m so glad you came by and left that comment. I had sent it to my mom, telling her it was my favorite and when I asked her what she thought she said,”Well, she’s just standing in the yard.” Made me feel like an idiot!

I’m glad to know that you liked it!

Evie

kelli - December 19, 2007 - 1:16 pm

“Well, she’s just standing in the yard.”

Wait…. I didn’t know we were sisters *g* I’ve totally heard comments like that from my mom too.

We must put those comments out our heads…we don’t want them commin’ ’round here! :)

And those black and white ones of the boys are amazing~

kalurah - December 19, 2007 - 9:49 pm

Oh, some just cannot understand us “artistic geniuses”!! ;)

piscesgrrl - December 22, 2007 - 10:22 pm

I totally see why you love this photo! It’s not posed, she looks so sweet in that dress, and it seems to capture the innocence and dreaminess of our wee ones. It’s lovely! I love seeing the different effects. I’ve been dabbling with Picasa, Google’s free photo editing program. There aren’t that many effects to choose from, but I’m hooked nonetheless.

Anonymous - January 25, 2008 - 5:22 pm

Great photos. On the topic of costly photoshop you should try out flauntr.com

Family – UGH

I happen to have a very dysfunctional family. Undoubtedly when my kids grow up they will say the same thing, it’s just the way things are I guess. But the following post may blow your mind and give you a view into a world about which you may have said to yourself previously, “Who would […]

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Mama Podkayne - December 8, 2007 - 10:00 pm

I don’t have to wonder what I would do- I have done it.

I have a similar story to yours: 14 year old cousin, I was 4, involved a “lolipop” BUT I knew it is was wrong as soon as it happened. I told. I told loud. No one championed for me. I did for myself.

I got grief for not inviting him to our wedding. Bah.

Here’s where I got really proactive: my mother was also severely abusive mentally, verbally, and physically. She left me to die when my appendix burst, kicked me and then left. 2 days later I was found and airlifted to a hospital.

That’s only one story. When I got pregnant I decided several things: no pediphiles in my life and no more abusers even if the physical part of the abuse is gone. None. I cut off contact with my own mother and several male relatives. Chain reaction: I now have 3 families in my extended family that will speak to me- as if what I did was more wrong than what the abusers did? Bah. I don’t need that crap. Neither do you. You go girl.

What does that teach our children?

whimsigal - December 8, 2007 - 10:49 pm

Wow, that is quite a story you have there and it certainly lends strength to what I’ve been thinking. Family, for me, is hard to escape but from my grandparents and my uncle at least I can do it.

there’s a tiny voice in my brain, that tells me I’m wrong to feel the way I do and it’s so hard sometimes to drown it out. Especially when people I think would support me don’t.

Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I’m so sorry that your mother was one in name only and you are an amazing person for overcoming all of that. Many people wouldn’t be able to be the wonderful mother you are after growing up that way.

I bet there are many others out there who read here and have experienced something similar. Thanks again for talking about it here.

((((hugs)))) to you!!!

Stephanie - December 8, 2007 - 11:08 pm

God no you don’t have to have them in your life.
Do they add to your happiness? To your fulfillment? To being the mother and person you want to be?
Can you live your best life without them?

You’ve told your truth, and shined your light upon it, and they chose to disbelieve.
So be it.
That’s there decision.

Be done with them.

I personally would make a final declaration and be done with it. “I’m not changing my mind, and don’t bring it up to me because I am Movin’ On.

I’m so sorry.
He sucks.
So do your grandparents.
grr.

whimsigal - December 8, 2007 - 11:35 pm

Making a personal declaration and being done with it. god, that makes my stomach hurt to think about it because I’m such a namby-pamby about standing up for myself. But it seems like it’s time to stop feeling like I’m the wrong one and I’m the trouble-maker and just say “seacrest out”. Seriously though, you’r right. Take a stand a stick with it. I’m 36 and I think it’s about time.

Thanks for your kind words, Steph! :)

Mama Podkayne - December 9, 2007 - 1:18 am

It is not hard to tell my story. It is likened to being hit by a drunk driver- there is no shame in it for me AND there should be for them.

My husband supports me and every time I look at my daughter I know I am doing the right thing.

It was very hard at first. They threatened me with grandparent rights lawsuits, etc. It was even harder losing contact with relatives that I thought would be supportive or at least ignore the “feud”. Jesus, they call it a feud.

But it goes deeper than that. If they were not related by blood, would it be the same? No, you’d have no problem dropping them from your life and in my case getting a retraining order or charges brought. Being family changes everything BUT should it?

whimsigal - December 9, 2007 - 2:40 am

“being family changes everything BUT should it?”

No, it shouldn’t and you’re right that it’s the only thing that has prevented me from taking any real action before. It’s been a difficult thing to consider doing but I guess now is as good a time as any to take the leap.

Life With Us - December 9, 2007 - 12:41 pm

Just supportive thoughts your way. I agree that life is way to precious and that your children need to see that you don’t need people who are bad to you in your life. Be done with them for sure. Old or not, if they know you then they can’t believe you would make this up. To what purpose would that serve?
Danette

whimsigal - December 9, 2007 - 12:55 pm

Thanks so much, Danette. You ask the question that I have asked so many times myself. What on earth would I have to gain by making this up? It’s not a glamorous story. It’s something I wish had never happened but it did. Can’t escape that.

Thanks again for the supportive thoughts!

carri - December 9, 2007 - 1:11 pm

Just wanted to echo everyone else. Drop ’em! It is so hard to give up on family, but like I tell everyone who asks, take care of you first. And if being around someone causes you to feel like you aren’t taken care of, let go of that relationship.

I have given up on family, luckily not because of physical abuse, but because they bring way too much drama into my life. And I don’t need it. No one does!

Rinnyboo - December 9, 2007 - 4:39 pm

Sorry I am late in writing this but I had family in town until today and couldn’t find a spare moment to write.

I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you. I know how hard it must be to put your foot down and make a decision, even when you know it is the right one.

My advice is to cut off contact with your uncle and grandparents. Like everyone else has said how can your grandparents think you would make up a story like that?

“Oh thank god, we thought he was gay?” That is one of the worst things I have ever heard on so many levels!

You don’t need them in your life.

((((((hugs))))))to you!

Marin

KMDuff - December 10, 2007 - 2:46 am

I’m so sorry for all this crap with family. That sucks. Hugs.

MarlaQuack - December 15, 2007 - 12:04 am

Many of us have had family or neighbor issues followed by no support from our families. As for me and my house. I will protect my kids period. For me that would mean avoiding the grand parents.

kalurah - December 19, 2007 - 10:47 am

I am so sorry.
I would ABSOLUTELY do everything within my power to keep my children safe and myself.
you are brave.
that’s all I have to say.
strong AND brave.
*hugs*

piscesgrrl - December 20, 2007 - 1:03 am

I’m so sorry that you have suffered all these abuses. And I admire you for the work you do to better yourself and find wholeness in the midst of the chaos. It sounds to me like the grandparents aren’t willing to make the right concessions to deserve a relationship with you. That’s their own sh*t and their own work to do and their own karma. Only you know what’s right for you.

But listen – there is a whole wealth of info about mind/body connection out there, and much of what you are dealing with (and have dealt with for so long) is related to the physical health issues you are having. Try here for a start – http://www.colourtherapyhealing.com/colour_therapy/chakras/sacral_chakra.php It helps us to see that we need to address these issues or they manifest in so many ways.

Hugs to you my friend. I’m sending a protective white light to surround you. You are not alone.

whimsigal - December 20, 2007 - 2:55 am

Laura,

Thanks for the links you sent, along with the positive words and vibes. I went and checked out the whole woman link and it seems that approach won’t work for me, after reading the FAQ’s. The chakras site was very interesting as well and I’m going to find the time to delve into that. It was a little over my head in just glancing at it!

I really appreciate all the kindness and advice you’ve given me. It makes me feel something that I can’t really explain but I’m glad you’re here!

Thank you again, friend.

Evie

Medical Test Results Are In

WARNING********************If you don’t like reading about medical stuff then this post is not for you. If you’re interested in reading about what’s going on with my medical situation then please, by all means, continue reading. This morning I went in for two tests. They weren’t bad, some minor discomfort but one test gave up some […]

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Rinnyboo - December 7, 2007 - 7:09 pm

Cool, Evie. I am glad you were able to get your tests done safely. I was thinking about you. Not having a period would be really nice!!

Have a good day.

Marin

whimsigal - December 7, 2007 - 7:39 pm

Thanks Marin! It’s been quite a day!

Mama Podkayne - December 7, 2007 - 7:42 pm

Goodness. Before Christmas?

Fibroids run in my family too. They complicated Lil’Bug’s birth and my recovery. Somehow they are all gone AND the ultrasound tech asked me if I had them surgically removed. Um, no. There are lots of causes, and in my research I found that the hormones in mass produced milk are a huge leading factor. When DD was born we switched to organic and hormone free meat- that’s my only explanation.

Good luck to you with the surgeries!

whimsigal - December 7, 2007 - 7:54 pm

Wow, MP that’s pretty wild about how yours disappeared. It’s good though! At least you were able to avoid surgery.

I just talked with the scheduling person at my Dr.’s office and it may not happen before Christmas after all. If not, I’ll just have to wait until February, after our trip to Disney World.

Mama Podkayne - December 7, 2007 - 9:29 pm

I’ll cross my fingers for you to have an early Christmas gift of major abdominal surgery?:)

carri - December 7, 2007 - 10:09 pm

Oh Evie, I’m happy the tests went well. I’ll keep my fingers crossed that you can get the procedures done before Christmas, but if not February really isn’t that far away.

whimsigal - December 7, 2007 - 10:24 pm

MP – it is at least done vaginally though so I don’t have to worry about an incision and all that jazz. I thank you kindly for your crossed fingers!

You too, Carri! You’re right though Feb isn’t that far off if it doesn’t work out this month.

Stephanie - December 8, 2007 - 12:29 am

I’m so glad that you’re on the road to fixing it!
I’m sure it’s all a bit unnerving and scary, but I’m guessing not as bad as living with the alternative!
It sounds like it’s all pretty safe and standard, is that right?

I have no experience with this, though i’ve had (grr) two cesaerians, and “advanced age” :) pregnancy tests. (I was 36 when I had Madd.)

Unnerving,as I said, but not as bad as living in the dark in my opinion!

I hope you’re doing well, and feeling fine.
Much loves and hugs and kisses.
Steph

whimsigal - December 8, 2007 - 2:23 am

Having had one c-section I was not looking forward to going through that again but since it’s a vaginal procedure I’m thinking that the recovery will not be AS bad. he said I will definitely be uncomfortable and as far as doctors and their euphemisms go, he’s not bad about exaggerating things.

Thanks for your well wishes my friend, they mean a lot to me. :)

Alison - December 8, 2007 - 4:08 am

I’m with you on hysterectomy part…I would love to have my periods be gone!! Sorry you have to go through surgery though but it sounds like you will definitely be better off afterward.

Sheri - December 8, 2007 - 1:31 pm

I’m glad that the tests went well and that there are some options taht you can take. We’ll keep our fingers crossed for you over here. Although anything with the word vaginal and recovery makes me cringe. (I had 2 c-sections, nothing has ever come out of that area before. Yikes!)My mom had the procedure for a bladder sling after years of waiting and she loves it! It made all the difference in the world for her. I never realized everything that went along with it, until she experienced it first hand. Good luck! I hope that the talk with Sean went well. :)

whimsigal - December 8, 2007 - 2:24 pm

Alison, I thank you for your kind thoughts as well.

Sheri, I’m SO glad you posted this about the bladder sling! It’s one things I really can’t wait to have done and it’s nice to read from someone I know that it IS a life-changing surgery. Thank you so much for posting your mom’s experience with it.

The talk with Sean did go well, although I did scare him by saying I had a tumor in my uterus. Poor choice of words on my part. He supports me with whatever I choose to do. I love him dearly!

Anonymous - December 13, 2007 - 2:37 am

Came across a link to your blog. I’ve had both a hysterectomy and a bladder sling. The bladder surgery was 18 months ago and let me tell you, it was some of the best money we ever spent. My hubby will attest to that! I’d put it off for years because I dreaded the doctor visit more than anything, but it was a piece of cake. In fact, the surgery was the easier I’ve ever had (and I’ve had several) and the recovery was only a few days.

So GO FOR IT. You won’t be sorry.

whimsigal - December 13, 2007 - 3:17 am

Hey! Thanks so much for your comment! I’m going ahead getting both done at the same time and will be so relieved to go to the grocery store without buying pee pads and tampons!

I’m glad to hear that you’ve had such wonderful results! Thanks again for leaving your comment.

Evie

MarlaQuack - December 15, 2007 - 12:01 am

if you’ve not already been there check out hystersisters.com

piscesgrrl - December 20, 2007 - 12:47 am

I see someone else alreayd posted the hystersisters.com link. I would suggest you search for sling on there and see what comes up, so you can be sure you get information pro and con. I also found this site: http://www.wholewoman.com/ in my search (dealing with prolapse here too) and am finding it to be very informative and helpful. Good luck!

VanderbiltWife - December 20, 2007 - 6:31 pm

Evie, Was talking to a friend from work today and she mentioned that she read my blog…and then she told me she had to comment on my friend’s blog about her bladder surgery even though she’s never commented on mine! LOL! She’s “anonymous” up there. And if she says it’s OK, I am sure it is. Hope you’ll be able to get it over with soon.

Jessie

whimsigal - December 20, 2007 - 7:04 pm

Jessie! That is TOO funny! Can you ask her a question for me? What was the hysterectomy recovery like? I’m going to email this to you, too.