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Roll the video tape, please.

Friends, I must share with you something very powerful that happened today. Ryan was using the video camera and was recording some Mario and Luigi toy adventures when he decided he wanted someone else to do the taping. I was smack in the middle of cleaning up a mess so I told him to ask […]

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Madeline - November 25, 2007 - 1:51 pm

How powerful. The kind of thing that only happens completely unplanned.

whimsigal - November 25, 2007 - 2:29 pm

So true. It was an amazing moment.

Rinnyboo - November 25, 2007 - 4:08 pm

Wow! Ryan is such an introspective person. I wish he would come take video of me when I am being mean!

Thanks for sharing this story.
Good luck with the turkey.

KMDuff - November 26, 2007 - 1:02 am

wow. pretty cool experience. thanks for sharing!

whimsigal - November 26, 2007 - 1:48 am

Marin, Pah! You’re never mean….

kmduff, glad you enjoyed reading it!

Stephanie - November 26, 2007 - 10:41 pm

This is a beautiful story, Evie. It made me cry!
Yay for you for being the Mama you wanted to be in that moment, and not getting frustrated.
Much love to you.
xxoo

whimsigal - November 26, 2007 - 11:18 pm

Hey, Stephanie! I needed the camera trained on me today as I was not nice to him. I let my frustrations get the best of me and we had a rough hour or so this afternoon. All is well now but I thought I was going to lose it for a little while.

It seems like two steps forward and two steps back some days but I know that the video event really made an impression on him. I felt like crying at the time, too but had to keep it together for Ryan’s sake.

Fell off the RU Wagon

Good god. I feel horrible today. Like an abusive husband or something. Yesterday I was awful to the kids, it was like being on a river where everything is calm and then suddenly the water starts to move faster and you’re avoiding rocks and dips. Without warning you’re catapulted over the edge and hurtling like […]

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Rinnyboo - October 1, 2007 - 10:16 pm

So sorry to hear about your day, Evie.

I hope today was better for you.

I know that it is so easy (especially as an RU parent) to beat yourself up. I know there is also the tendancy to feel like a martyr sometimes. I totally have those kinds of days.

Today has sort of been one of them. Today we were trying to leave the park and I was really grumpy and I actually did the whole, “Okay, I am leaving without you,” thing. I am pretty embarassed to admit that! Tomorrow will be better for us and I hope it is for you as well, friend.

Tiffani - October 1, 2007 - 10:21 pm

I’m sorry!

I have those days, too. Aagghhhh!!!

And a few days ago, The Naturalist made a contraption that held an egg safely while she dropped it off the balcony. The egg dropped, and then cracked, and when she asked me what I thought of her invention I told her I’d give it a C-. A C-!!! I graded her (and not very well!) and it was out of my mouth before I even realized it. Like i’ve ever made an egg dropper contraption, and like she needed my ‘assesment’. Ugh. It made me feel horrible.

Not all sunshine and roses, no…but better than the alternative!

whimsigal - October 1, 2007 - 10:25 pm

Marin,

Thanks so much for your comment. It’s true that as RU parents it’s easy for us to beat ourselves up about our missteps and ironically enough, I was just telling Stephanie the same thing in reference to something she posted recently. Maybe that’s part of it. I despise hypocrisy and I feel like a hypocrite today.

I’m sorry that you had a bad day, too! Hopefully we’ll both be back on our game tomorrow.

whimsigal - October 2, 2007 - 12:02 am

Tiffani,

Oh no! Not you, too! :)

You are right it is better than the alternative because at least for the most part we get it right. It’s just so overwhelming to have days like that and it creates a lot of self-doubt, not to mention self-loathing!

I thank you so much for telling me about your egg-dropping comment. It was great of you to share that!

Evie

Stephanie - October 2, 2007 - 2:15 am

Oh, Honey.
I’m sorry to to have come just now… when the babes want a snuggle and a story.
You know too well that I’ve been there, friend.
I’ll comiserate tomorrow, okay?
Much loves to you.
xxxooo
Steph

Stephanie - October 2, 2007 - 3:02 am

I too have days like this it’s usually when I’m just really tired and impatient or getting PMS. I beat myself up too but you know what parenting in the way of mindfulness and respect is so worth it. The truth is that those times are very few overall and it’s usually moments not whole days so we can just regroup and do better in the next moment. Thanks for being real!

whimsigal - October 2, 2007 - 3:18 am

You know Steph, it could be PMS actually. My you-know-what usually comes around the 8th of the month but for the last six weeks it has come every 2 weeks or so. Doesn’t that sound like fun?

You’re right though that the instances are not the norm and certainly better than what we were doing.

Thanks to you and everyone else for the support!

Stephanie - October 2, 2007 - 3:49 am

I wanted to ask if you knocked your head when you fell from the wagon, or did you just bruise your butt?
:)

Stephanie - October 2, 2007 - 3:54 am

My bout a few days ago was so wicked that I knew it had to be pms. Imagine my chagrine when come the next morning, no dice.
Oh.
Well.
Guess it’s just me and my horrid self to blame!
Yuk.
I came through, though.
And lived to tell the tale!
It was a rough two days, though.

whimsigal - October 2, 2007 - 3:56 am

har-dee-har-har….my head.

My butt is too big to sustain a major injury.

Stephanie - October 2, 2007 - 5:09 am

Just wondering if you realize that there are 2 of us :) Stephanie’s that is.

whimsigal - October 2, 2007 - 1:12 pm

Oh for goodness sake! Imagine that comment in the voice of Brenda Leigh Johnson on The Closer. Love her…

NO i didn’t know there were two Stephanie’s here!!! LOL Oh, that gave me such a good laugh this morning. I would have continued to merrily comment along, never thinking there might be more than one!

Thank you so much for the heads up.

I hope you will continue to post comments here. Now I’m off to check to see how many of your comments I have mistakenly identified as someone else’s!

Evie

Stephanie - October 2, 2007 - 5:47 pm

LOL!!! I think I’ve only commented a couple times because I just found your blog recently.

Stephanie has commented on my blog but I knew it wasn’t me :)