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One more time, then I’m done

So, I really don’t want to devote too much time to it but it’s on my mind and this is where I go to express what’s on my mind. You may or may not know that recently my mother-in-law was upset about something she read on my blog. And now, because she’s upset with me, […]

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Mama Podkayne - March 22, 2008 - 2:17 pm

Sometimes the hard thing to do is also the right thing. A lesson that is sometimes painful, but keep strong, friend.

Momo Fali - March 22, 2008 - 4:00 pm

I’m so sorry to hear this. Especially, given that Easter is a time for celebration. And, your poor son. It’s a shame. I hope your MIL can somehow redeem herself for his sake. Good luck. Makes me feel really thankful to have great in-laws!

whimsigal - March 22, 2008 - 4:01 pm

Thanks so much. I just got word this morning that now my sister-in-law isn’t coming either.

Thanks for your support.

:)

Mama Podkayne - March 22, 2008 - 4:28 pm

That’s a bugger.

Have a good holiday anyway! May the Easter bunny bring you many Cadbury’s! :)

whimsigal - March 22, 2008 - 4:56 pm

Hey, Momo Fali, I hope so,too.

:)

Joan - March 22, 2008 - 6:56 pm

I’m so sorry. It’s not right to take it out on your son. I blogged about a family situation a few weeks ago that was upsetting. It was on my side of the family. For good or bad, we have limited contact with my husband’s family. I hope your precious son has a great birthday regardless.
Take care,

joan

Stephanie S. - March 22, 2008 - 9:37 pm

Blech.
I’m sorry, sweetie.
Pretty amazing that family can’t take us when they actually come to KNOW us.
[grin]
Screw ’em.

Loves and more loves to you and yer three boys.
xxoo

piscesgrrl - March 24, 2008 - 2:48 am

Aw gee, I hope things get smoothed over somehow, sometime. I find family strife pretty stressful. Which can sometimes turn one into a doormat.

And being a doormat ain’t no fun.

Jill - March 24, 2008 - 3:46 pm

I am sorry you have to be going through this and that she is taking it out on Ryan like she is! I hope it will all get better soon.

‘Round Here

Things have been pretty good around here the last couple of days. We’ve had some tense interactions, the kids and I, but for the most part it’s been smooth sailing. Part of the week has been spent administering a standardized test to Iain that is required of all homeschoolers annually in our state. It’s a […]

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MamaK - January 10, 2008 - 4:07 pm

Aww don’t tell me your mac is crap, mine was just delivered! But mine is not a laptop,so maybe better luck?
I’m sorry you had a rough time PMS is the devil. It makes us all insane. Tell your kids you are sorry, have a heart tot heart. It usually works out. Kids have huge forgiving hearts.
Don’t sweat the panic, it happens and then we all look dumb cause our kids usually stick it to us in the end! Be well and good luck in your decluttering!-K

whimsigal - January 10, 2008 - 4:28 pm

Hay MamaK! I’m sure you’ll be fine. My problem is the case that houses my laptop cracked all across the front. Apparently it’s an issue that has affected many folks. Just disturbs me to spend that kind of dough and have an issue like that come up, you know. The computer itself is fine so don’t worry! Enjoy it!

Thanks for the encouragement, I needed it!!

evie

Rinnyboo - January 10, 2008 - 4:50 pm

Sorry you had a less than stellar experience with the testing. I am not there yet but I do panic sometimes when I hear about Ian’s friends who are in preschool.

Hey, is this your last period EVER? Cool! How do you feel about it?

I hope you guys have lots of fun today. I know you have some fun stuff coming up in the next couple of weeks so maybe that will counteract the crappy test.

Can you use Sean’s computer to blog? Or Iain’s? Or Ryan’s? I NEED my Whimisifix! :)

Marin

whimsigal - January 10, 2008 - 5:41 pm

Oh, I’m so excited, Marin. Really! When I went to the grocery store and bought pee pads and tampons the realization hit me that this was it. NO more periods. So great!

I’m going to try and use Iain’s computer because it’s already set up to receive my email from my previous computer’s issues. I just won’t be able to post any pictures which will drive me insane. I’ll do my best to post while I’m waiting for it to be repaired. Thankfully Apple has promised a quick turnaround!

childplay - January 10, 2008 - 8:51 pm

about reading…it’s very common for kids to stumble over the ‘sight words’ (like the, there, then, to) that you have to memorize, rather than big long words that can be associated with a picture.

In fact, many books on creative, right brained thinkers (or dyslexics, which the Naturalist is) advocate a ‘speed reading’ concept where kids go through and read the big words and let their eyes skip over the sight words. The comprehension is still high, but they spend less time struggling over memorization.

And, reading out loud is totally different from reading in your mind. :)

Sorry for your Mac issue!!! I have a Mac, but haven’t had that problem. That stinks.

Also sorry for the standardized tests. Argh!

Stephanie - January 11, 2008 - 12:56 am

I don’t know what state you are in but I am against standardized tests as you said they do not measure true knowledge. I would just take the test myself instead of torture my child :)

Mama Podkayne - January 11, 2008 - 1:47 am

The first month I had my mactop my husband dropped it. It cracked. They fixed it in about 3 days. THEN the screen went wonky. Had to be shipped away DURING THE FINAL STRETCH OF MY THESIS!!! They gave me a loaner and transfered my thesis to it. THEN the dog knocked off the table whiel it was plugged in AND it shattered all to bits while the pup was tangled in it running around the house. By then the warranty had expired.

Apple fixed it- for free. So while stuff has happened, service has been great in times of crisis. :)

And so goes motherhood. It is just a blip. Forgive yourself and keep on going.

whimsigal - January 11, 2008 - 2:18 am

Thanks everyone, for the encouragement. You guys are so great and i’m glad y’all deem me worthy enough for your comments.

@Stephanie: You know, I actually had that thought but there is always the “what if” side of me. I don’t want my kids to be put in a position of having to lie about whether they had done something or not should an official come to my home. While I wasn’t a fan of it, we did it as painlessly as possible and it’s done for a whole year. Last year, we did a version that was much more fun but my upcoming surgery and recovery didn’t allow for that this year and we had to go this route. I’m in NC and while I find the test annoying as Hell, I count myself lucky that it’s really the only hoop I have to jump through in order to homeschool. I completely understand your sentiment though. Thanks for sharing it here!

CP- Thank you for giving me that info about right brained readers. I’m going to look into that some more. It seems like he may already be doing some form of that.

Mama P! I’m so glad to hear that Apple provided you with such wonderful customer service. I’m keeping my fingers crossed that my experience is the same. It was boxed up and shipped off today and hopefully it will be back on Monday. Right now I’m on Sean’s computer because he’s not home. It’s going to be a long weekend without it that’s for sure.

piscesgrrl - January 11, 2008 - 3:31 am

Don’t worry, we’ve had those moments from time to time. Honesty helps, in sharing tht you let things get to you sometimes, when you shouldn’t. They learn a lot by watching you grow through it!

carri - January 11, 2008 - 12:58 pm

I think we all have doubts sometimes. And the kids do bounce back and forgive pretty quickly. I sometimes feel so sorry for my oldest because he had to deal with all of my panicky issues, but he doesn’t even remember most of them. Sometimes he does like to make comments like, remember when Mama thought we needed to learn from books? What was she thinking?! Then everyone gets to laugh at my ridiculousness. Fun times, fun times.

Got my fingers crossed for your computer to get fixed quickly!

Stephanie S. - January 13, 2008 - 2:11 am

Sorry – guess I missed this one!
Blech.
Don’t be hard on yourself (though I’m certain you’re over it now) these things are stressful for everyone, and it’s hard to not get a bit panicky when someone is judging and grading us. If they are judging our children then it’s even worse if it were us – we can take it and psh it away.
Judging our babes is just … mean. :)
I’m glad it’s over.
xxoo

Joan - January 13, 2008 - 1:34 pm

I have an ongoing battle against clutter mainly due to the 3 other people I live with. The 2 kids are slobs. My husband and daughter are pack rats. Good luck. Hopefully you will be successful and inspire me.

SHUGARMAN FAMILY - January 17, 2008 - 2:18 pm

Standardized testing…ugh!! Whether they are unschooled or schooled kids have to suffer through this. My son is in public schools and scored 12% on reading. I panicked too! Had to meet with the principal, sign forms about the no child left behind…blah blah blah. Meanwhile his teacher and I weren’t truly concerned. He is a very smart kid who does not test well at all! But, now he is labled and I’m sure has brought down somebody’s average…oh well

As for clutter…it’s an ongoing battle at our house. I consider myself uber-organzied, but one week of slacking off and shoes, mittens, paperwork, chewed pencils are everywhere!

Sorry to ramble, keep up the great posting.

Aimee
http://shugfamily.blogspot.com

whimsigal - January 17, 2008 - 3:02 pm

Aimee, that really sucks. Labels suck. Glad that you weren’t worried and you recognize that your son is not what the test described. They are such narrow images of what children are capable of.

Thanks for your comment!

evie

Why I share my pictures – WARNING – RANT AHEAD

I share because I’m happy with my life and am experiencing such joy that I want others to experience that joy with me. What I don’t understand is people’s compulsion to critique things that are not meant to be a professional venture. Yesterday I decided to email my family with photos I had taken over […]

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Stephanie - September 11, 2007 - 2:48 am

It’s really difficult when our parents are not as excited about our daily stories as we are!
Um… are your family professional photographers? What’s up with the “this and this and this” are wrong?
Hmmph.
The grandparents that had the same comment – is this your dad’s parents? If so, then there you have it. He would have gotten it from them… as he was treated that way his whole life, and never learned a different way.
Which is why we’re trying so damned hard today.

whimsigal - September 11, 2007 - 2:59 am

LOL No, my parents are not professional photographers. My dad does have proclivity for thinking he’s an expert on everything though. He gets that straight from his mother.

Stephanie, I have to tell you, I struggle to have a relationship with my family. My mom and I are close but my father, well that’s a whole other issue. He’s a bully and almost impossible to be around. My mother always defends him, unless he’s done something to make her mad. It’s a stressful situation – to feel love but not like for someone. I’ve always suspected that he feels that way about me, too. How does one resolve something like that? I feel guilt whenever I even think about pulling away. I could tell you so many stories…I just feel so conflicted.

You’re right – it’s the treatment I received that pushes me to do better by my kids. It still won’t be perfect but it will be better than what I got.

ThatGirlTasha - September 11, 2007 - 11:41 pm

I understand that negativity thing-maybe it’s generational. My mom and aunt live together and are struggling financially since my dad’s death.

Everything is bad, depressing, “why us”. If anything good happens to someone, they talk about how it isn’t fair. When I call, I just say uh huh. And I have to be careful not say anything good that’s happened or they’ll be on the phone with another family member saying how it isn’t fair that such and such happened to me.

I would definitely recommend keeping a pretty good distance for a while, otherwise, you might find yourself subconsciously trying to make your dad and grandparents “happy” with you, when intellectually, you know they can’t help themselves; they just have to taunt and pick on nonsense.

It’s jut a fault they have with themselves but this does not stop it from effecting you emotionally.

HHmmm-or maybe I’m just projecting-I have a couple of family members like this too ; )

-Tasha

whimsigal - September 11, 2007 - 11:53 pm

Tasha! Dang girl, it’s so nice to see you here!

I probably will hang back for a while because as you said, the temptation to please the unpleasable is so great. Is unpleasable a word? Poetic License.

I’m glad to know I’m not the only person out there with family members who regularly overdraw the emotional bank account. Well, not too glad because I’m not happy to hear that you have to endure the torment as well but I don’t feel so alone about it.

The situation makes me think about the movie, Moonstruck with Cher and Nick Cage, you know the part where Olympia Dukakis smacks Cher and says, “Snap out of it!” God, I SO want to do that…..

Thanks for commenting!!

Tiffani - September 12, 2007 - 10:16 pm

For what it’s worth, I love the pic of the sheep, and the dog taking a bath. :)

Sometimes, I have to picture some family members not as their chronological age, but as their emotional intelligence age. Which in many cases is at about 3 years old. And then I treat them like I do my daughter. I don’t get mad at her, I understand she’ll throw tantrums, and set very firm boundaries. Same principle with some adults in my life.

Keep on taking (and sharing!) your pics, I love them.

whimsigal - September 12, 2007 - 10:31 pm

Thanks, Tiffani!

That dog was so funny! It just hopped right in there and was drinking the water while chillin’ at the same time. Totally cracked me up.

Thanks for the encouragement!

Evie

whimsigal - September 13, 2007 - 2:55 pm

Tiffani,

I published your comment then realized that you might not have wanted me to so I deleted it just in case!

Thanks for the info you provided!!

Evie