I belong to a Yahoo group called Unschooling Resources and one of the topics of discussion today was about another Yahoo group to which I belong, Unschooling Basics. One member, we’ll call her “Lucy” was advising another to stay as far away from Unschooling Basics as possible. They’re letting their children run wild and watch porn, for heaven’s sake. At least that was “Lucy’s” impression and the image she was portraying to the rest of the group. Also, she didn’t like the tone of the discussions there as she had evidently been pounced on for wanting to “Be a parent”. Radical Unschoolers, she said, spend their days letting their children do whatever they want to and never telling them no.
The only thing I can surmise from that is that she has never read any literature by A.S. Neill, John Holt, or any of the countless others who describe allowing your children the freedom to grow into the people they are meant to become, not what you think they should be. Needless to say, this really got my blood boiling, because, while I struggle with implementing the ideas they discuss at Unschooling Basics, I believe in the idea of Radical Unschooling and I try very hard to allow my children the freedom the deserve. I find it interesting that the list, Unschooling Resources, which is supposed to be a way for people to enlighten other members to things that would work in an unschooling household, often provides us with worksheets and study aids. That’s not what unschooling means to me. I hate to say this but several of the folks bitching about Unschooling Basics had proverbs and other such things in the signature of their emails. Toxic, people, toxic. If you don’t like the group, then unsubscribe to it! That’s what I’m doing! Well, not really. I’m not going to let some zealot run me away from a group I find useful and offers resources that I might not otherwise find on my own. It just makes me sad that so many parents have a twisted view of children and a narrow focus on the world at large.
Live and let live. As long as it doesn’t infringe on someone else’s liberty.
Ok, another soapbox dismounted. Thank you for listening. Thank you very much.